Being a compassionate leader in the workplace

What Is Compassion in the Workplace?

Before we begin, let’s first recap what compassion is.

Compassion has three components:

1. We must feel that the troubles evoking our feelings are serious.
2. We require that the sufferer’s troubles are the result of unfortunate circumstances. That is, they are not self-inflicted.
3. We must be able to picture ourselves in the same predicament (Cassell, 2002).

Compassion doesn’t follow a give-and-take approach. Instead, it has an added component of altruism in it as the person showing compassion rarely expects to receive the same or does so to get something in return. In all its essence, compassion is “empathy in action.”Recent research and findings have recognized compassion to be an essential aspect of a productive work environment (Dutton, Workman, & Hardin, 2014). Showing compassion to colleagues is vital to sustaining job satisfaction and work-related motivation.

Compassion in organizations

Organizations where compassion prevails, have employees with reduced stress and more job satisfaction (Fineman, 2000). Additionally, workplace compassion also invites more loyalty, dedication, and employee engagement.Organizations have an emotional component, and employees who work with each other compassionately are more likely to help and cooperate with each other.We can express compassion in the workplace by:

• Noticing when colleagues are in pain or are undergoing some personal stressors and trying to make them feel secure and comfortable at work,
• Actively listening to others without judging them,
• Accepting criticisms and carefully stating our opinions to someone for underperformance or failure, making sure we don’t hurt their feelings.

Focusing on compassion at work promotes healthy interpersonal relationships (Dutton & Ragins, 2007). It lets us acknowledge and appreciate others wholeheartedly and work for the organizational benefits, rather than personal gains. Compassion works by building trust, mutual connections, and reciprocation.Acts of kindness in the workplace impact not only the carer and the receiver, but it also afects the performance culture as a whole (Brody, 1992).It reduces anxiety, the pressure of achieving, and makes them resilient to work stress and burnout (Frost, Dutton, Worline, & Wilson, 2000). And this is why many leading organizations today emphasize building a compassionate environment before aiming for any other achievements.

A Look at the Importance and Benefits

Unless we can express compassion through our behavior, the feelings cannot be conveyed.Organizations may have tremendously talented professionals who have uber experience in their field, but unless they greet others with respect, talk empathetically, or internalize others’ pain, they cannot be as successful in their fields.The benefits of being compassionate at work are vast. It facilitates a healthy flow of communication that has warmth and love in it and goes all the way to improve a company’s organizational health.

1. Employee retention

One of the vital benefits of a compassionate workplace is employee retention. Employees who receive empathy, understanding and help from their colleagues and superiors are likely to stay in the organization for a long period of time and install all their efforts for the benefit of the organization (Van Bommel, 2021).On the contrary, employees who are ill-treated or fail to receive any professional co-operation whatsoever will lose motivation to work productively (Porath, 2016).

2. Stress reduction

Compassion creates space for active communication. Employees in a compassionate work atmosphere can vent their professional troubles to each other and socialize in the office.Working with compassionate and kind people gives employees the chance to manage work stress and burnout and use their emotional resources to combat it (Figley, 1995; Lilius, Worline, Dutton, Kanov, & Maitlis, 2011).When people exchange positivity and bond with each other at work, their stress level significantly reduces (Ozaki, Motohashi, Kaneko, & Fujita, 2012).

3. Physical wellbeing

Heaphy and Dutton (2008) revealed that employees who spent a few minutes interacting and mixing with their colleagues had steady blood pressure and heart rate (Heaphy & Dutton, 2008).What’s more, their immune systems were well functioning, making them less prone to take sick leave. Increased functioning also called for better work-life balance, and the employees had happier families and social life.

4. Interpersonal bonds

It has been said that leaders and managers who follow compassionate approaches at work, have highly reciprocating employees who work dedicatedly for the company. Employees tend to pay forward the goodness they receive at work by achieving the organizational targets.In addition, employees also form healthy and strong professional relationships and feel comfortable to work as a part of the team.Exchanging compassion promotes generosity and builds affective commitment of the workers towards their superiors and the institution as a whole (Shanock & Eisenberger, 2006).When people perceive that they are valued and cared for by the organization, they automatically feel positive about their work commitments and voluntarily offer support and care to others they work with (Fowler & Christakis, 2010; Goetz, Keltner, & Simon-Thomas, 2010).

What Does Compassion in Organizations Look Like?

Thupten Jinpa, a Tibetan scholar and English translator to the Dalai Lama, defined compassion as “a mental state endowed with a sense of concern for the suffering of others and aspiration to see that suffering relieved” (Tan, 2012).Jinpa indicated that every expression of compassion has three aspects in it (Tan, 2012):

• The cognitive aspect – “I understand your problems”
• The affective component – “I feel what you feel”
• The drive or motivational component – “I want to help you out of this.”

Compassion in organizations means:

1. More importance on employees’ wellbeing

People who are more compassionate and considerate toward their employees on a one-on-one level are more popular and successful in their careers (Melwani, Mueller, & Overbeck, 2012).For instance, if a recruit suddenly encounters a personal loss, a compassionate working system would allow the recruit time off and offer support to overcome the adversity and bounce back positively, rather than pressurizing the recruit with protocols and formalities.Not only would this compassion help the recruit recuperate, but it will also bridge the gap in the leader-employee relationship and give it a mutually beneficial turn.

2. More positive relationships flowing at the workplace

Compassion encourages employees to have more positive contact with each other. Compassionate leaders and managers can build this attitude by organizing weekly meetups or feedback sessions, or allocate more group projects so that the employees get a chance to work in the team spirit, get the motivation to help and support each other, and contribute to the common goal of the company.

3. More open-hearted interactions

Nonjudgmental heart-to-heart conversations at the workplace call for more authenticity and openness among co-workers. In an empathetic work environment, leaders and co-workers treat each other with respect irrespective of what designations they hold. They are always up for discussions and are ready to attend to any issues that might require their assistance.

4. Wider perspective

Compassion in organizations invites ‘cognitive empathy’ or the feeling of ‘this person is just like me.’ Managers and workers in a compassionate environment are always aware and ready to accept the perspective of others, and try to step into their shoes before concluding.Such an approach builds an overall broad understanding of the industry and automatically gets passed on as a part of the performance culture among all employees of the firm.

5. More self-compassion

It is vital to be self-compassionate before we can accept or express compassion to others. Unless we are kind to ourselves, we can never understand the value of compassion and how it benefits us.Self-compassion is easy to practice. We can start with daily positive self-affirmations like “I am worth it,” “I am free from sorrow, pain, and guilt,” “I am trying my best,” etc., and slowly pass on the same values in our interpersonal relationships at work.When the relationship you have with yourself is characterized by balance, compassion, and acceptance, it sets the tone for your relationship with others, including coworkers and the people you lead.To learn more about creating a kinder and more nurturing relationship with yourself, check out our 17 Self-Compassion Exercises and the following blog posts:How to Practice Self-Compassion: 8 Techniques and Tips

What Is Mindful Self-Compassion? (Incl. Exercises + PDF)

6 Tips on How to Show Compassion at Work

For those who are wondering how to start, here are some simple hacks on how to show more compassion at work:

1. Self-compassion

All positive feelings should start with yourself. Unless you can show love and kindness to you as a person, you cannot prove it to anyone else. Start with regular activities such as giving a few compliments to yourself, forgiving yourself for any past mistakes, and focusing on your strengths and capabilities more than your shortcomings.

2. Communication

The key to being compassionate work is a sound communication pattern. Whether it is with a team member, supervisor, or client, communicate openly and express yourself clearly to others. At the same time, lend your ears to anyone who wants to confide in you and listen with patience and neutrality at all times.

3. Contact

If it is appropriate to do so, express your compassion by establishing gentle physical contact with the other person. A gentle pat on the back, eye contact, or holding hands while listening to shared sorrows are powerful nonverbal cues that express compassion and empathy.

4. Encouragement

Compassion gets reflected by verbal encouragement and motivation. You can practice compassion at the workplace by continuously supporting and cheering others for their hard work and achievements. You may never know when your words will start reinforcing them positively and bring about favorable changes, but keep on encouraging them.

5. Initiation

Whether it is by providing personal support, exchanging feedbacks, or expressing your opinions, if you are a compassionate worker, be prepared to take the first move. Compassionate leaders and workers set an example for the entire workplace with their sense of responsibility and openness to others.

6. Thoughtfulness

Be aware of the emotions and thoughts of others. How your words might affect your colleagues, subordinates or clients should be your prime concern. You can work on building general awareness by careful observation at the workplace, organizing meetings and feedback sessions at regular intervals, or one-on-one conversations that can help gauge the mental state and level of engagement in the person.

What Is Compassionate Leadership? (Incl. Definition)

Apparently, the concept of compassionate leadership was initiated in the mindfulness propositions of Jon Kabat-Zinn.In his works, Zinn indicated compassionate leadership as a way to reduce work stress and increase peace among professionals.His studies further suggested that compassionate leadership is a learned phenomenon, and anyone is capable of building themselves up as a compassionate professional if they want to.Following this line of research, the Harvard Business Review created an assessment to help leaders identify their levels of compassion. The evaluation is self-scorable and gives an accurate judgment of whether or not we can call ourselves compassionate leaders. You can take the test here.A compassionate leader is interested not only in motivating employees to gain profits for the company, but also helping them grow on a personal level. Such leaders have the far-sighted vision to hold genuine talents for long-term and think about the greater good of the organization.It is obvious that compassionate leaders are preferred more among employees, more popular among clients, more comfortable to talk to, and more positive in giving honest feedback.

The Compassionate Leadership Model

Roffey Park’s Compassion Workplace Model states that there are five aspects of compassionate leadership and management (Poorkavoos, 2016):

• Being aware of the needs of others.
• Being non-judgmental to the viewpoints of others.
• Being resilient and tolerant toward personal distress.
• Feeling and showing empathy at all levels of a professional life.
• Being accountable and responsible for all good and bad outcomes of the team.

The compassionate leadership model emphasizes the here and now aspect of leadership. That compassionate leader should be mindful of the present situation, and the current requirements of the organizations is a vital requisite here.

How to best demonstrate compassion as a leader

Emotions and mental wellbeing can influence our productivity at work. By helping more compassionate leaders grow in the organization, we can directly foster advancement and help distressed employees to get back their efficacy.Although compassion is an innate human trait and people differ in the way they choose to show kindness to others, here are some ideas for demonstrating compassion as a leader:

1. Slow down when you need to

Even though there are a multitude of tasks to be accomplished within the day, it is vital for leaders to pause at times and breathe. By slowing down and observing what is going on, leaders can gain mindfulness of their teams and the work ambiance as a whole.Pausing for a while makes it easier to sense any tensions that may be affecting the organization and deploy measures accordingly.

2. Never stop asking

A compassionate leader never refrains from asking questions or getting feedback. To them, communicating and learning about the perspective of others is a way to get closer to them and help in removing any obstacles in the path of success.

3. Empathize every day

Acknowledging others’ problems as if they were your own is a quality that makes compassionate leaders stand out among others. There are times when empathizing may make the leader overwhelmed, experience compassion fatigue, or stressed out. However, in most cases, they find that understanding other’s problems is the best way to stay firmly attached to the team as a whole.

4. Be open to change

Compassion is synonymous to action and dedication. Leaders who work with an open mind realize the power that small changes in daily routine can bring in overall productivity. Compassionate leaders are ever ready to tweak their lifestyle, change their leadership policies, and embrace new strategies that might benefit the organization.If you identify yourself as a compassionate leader, try challenging yourself as often as you want to and push your boundaries. You may never realize your potential unless you decide to get out of your comfort zone. Remember that compassionate leadership is all about:

• The ability to lead as a person others would love to follow.
• The quality of inspiring others and creating a futuristic vision for the company.
• Making team members feel valued and appreciated.
• Inspiring others by setting the right examples.
• Building a conducive work environment with high performance culture and mutually beneficial professional commitments.
• Caring for and treating others with kindness and affection.